Miss Kolka

Yes, I've been busy. Mainly not sleeping at night and therefore having to work twice as hard in the day to get my brain to function. But now the little devil allowed his parents to sleep 6 hours straight so it was time to blog again. 

There are days when I want to share something found on the never-ending internet. Like an article that makes you think. or cry. or both. That's how I felt after reading the tell-all story of Eve Ensler's trip to the Congo. Ensler is the writer of very successful play "The Vagina Monologue" that focused on violence against women. She found a familiar subject on her trip although much more horrendous than you could ever imagine. Her description of the ordeal many women have had to face of the hands of mostly their own countrymen is horryfying. That the women of the Congo actually want to keep living after what has happened to them is a big mystery. And there is one man there, helping to rebuild the women literally from pieces, as well as psychologically and restoring their faith in humanity. Many will have to return home afterwards, and maybe live near their attackers, or get attacked again - if not killed, which actually sounds better after you know what is done to them, their families, their neighbors, their children. How can we let this "femicide" go on? Isn't it just as bad as genocide? The article is 9 pages, but to understand how strong these women are it was certainly necessary to keep it all in, and dont let it put you off that it is written for Glamour,surprisingly of all magazines.

This is not the only story of "bad men" in the world press today. Most people have heard about Roman Polanski's arrest. A very peculiar turn of events, 30 years after the crime was committed and although Polanski has not returned to the US, it has not really been a mystery where he stays or travels. Probably politically motivated by Switzerland but that is not the point. The outpour of support for the filmmaker is more disturbing. Celebrities have signed a petition for the release of Polanski, but seeing names such as Almodovar, Scorsese and especially Woddy Allen (who is married to his adoptive daughter) has no real weight. Many say it wasn't really a crime. I guess Time's Amy sullivan says it best:

But it wasn't just her age that made it unlawful. It was the fact that the sex was unwanted, that she repeatedly said no throughout the assault, that she had been drugged. Polanski isn't being hounded for behavior--like homosexuality--once thought to be deviant but now generally accepted as mainstream. In 2009, just as in the 1970s, it is considered a bad thing to rape a child and run from the law. And so will it be 30 years from now and 60 years from now. Even in Hollywood.

Could not have said it better myself.

Some of the loudest voices in support for Polanski have come from France. And from cultural minister Frederic Mitterand. Who faces "some criticism" for writing on Sexual tourism in Thailand. Not in a theoritical way may I add. He actually paid young boys for sex (he is openly gay) and liked it. It happend more than once.

"All these rituals of the market for youths, the slave market excited me enormously ... the abundance of very attractive and immediately available young boys put me in a state of desire."

WHAT?! How is it possible that this man is allowed to stay minister and is defended by the government? It shows how messed up the hiararchy has become in France. No one should ever question the ones in power or acts of politicians. They are supreme beings. It just goes beyond me why French people can strike for any little thing but let things like corruption and total lack of ethics just rule free in their so-called democracy.

What all these men have in common, the lawless criminals of the Congo, Polanski, Woody Allen and Frederic Mitterand, is that they have no shame. They feel the urge for sex so they rape or kill or drug their victims, marry children they've raised or pay children for sex and because this is something they need or want they just go ahead and do it. With no regrets. And find it completely normal.

Want to blog but ha...

Have serious keybord issues with my computer... Its close to impossible to write any text longer than one sentence. This is maybe a plot by Twitter to get more members? Who wants to know my life/thoughts in one line sentences anyway? Those who really do are my probably so-called friends on facebook . One thought, if You got a serious disease and needed contribution for your medical bills (more for those living in the US I guess), how many of these TRUE FB friends would offer help?

Food for thought...while I find out how to fix this computer that has serious health issues!

We had been waiting for this since early 1997- a human birdflu and something contagious enough to make alot of people sweat (literally) . Oh, and when I say "we" I mean the people in news media of course, which incendently Im not part of anymore, unless you count citizen journalism for anything.

The trick is now to filter the information. Apparently what everybody seems to agree about is that a pandemic (or alot of cases) is inevitable this autumn. It is going to affect socities worldwide but how important or dangerous this impact is going to be, is hard to say. If the H1N1 virus stays as it is, it is not that deadly, and actually less than the more common influenza we have known for years. There seems to be conflicting reports about how deadly exactly the swineflu is. There have been stories about "healthy young individuals" dying of the virus. These are normally not considered at risk with normal influenza where it is the very young, sick or very old that get gravely ill. But I could not give you any examples and in some cases it has come out that this or that person actually did have some other healthproblems exc. Its not very clear. 

The French, always very up to date on medical progress and a huge pharmaceutical country report alot on the swineflu. The education minister has said he would not hesitate to close schools to stop the spreading of the virus. Doctors and researchers, often asked for their opinions say that more has to be done, transport systems might shut down and hospitals be under alot of pressure. Im not saying that these sometimes alarmist specialists are all linked to the big pharamceutical companies who happen to produce Tamiflu  in enormous quantities (the wonder drug against the flu, which I thought was caused by a virus and so by definition there wasn't much you could do once you had it) -  How much money are we talking about that governments are spending on the drug, billions of euros? But it is not to be forgotten when informing yourself on the disease.

Some say that the virus is bound to mutate and become more deadly and dangerous. What do we know? Until it happens, there is no way of knowing and by that time, if this strain of H1N1 is as contagious as it is said to be, almost half of the world will be immune to the new strain.

So is it worrying? Of course. Because the media tell us everyday. But they are also having a field day. Always a little story that can be found on a slow news day. And like me, manytv-producers like disaster scenarios. I just don't think that we realise that we are not all jake gyllenhal, the hero that survives the semi-end of the world. And frankly, the swineflu hasn't come to that, yet.

So it turns out this country isn't perfect. Although I might have praised the ultimate "motherland of maternity" as my friend calls it, the number of babies here is not always a good thing. As Pan experienced at 5. am this morning. This is why my man got up at this ungodly hour:

We live 100 meters from a very nice pool. Mr. F has shown with some impressive acrobatic moves for a 3 month old (at the time) that he likes going to the swimmingpool. So the parents thought that they could make this a weekly activity for the little one. One catch: there aren't so many classes in this swimmingpool and in the particular timeframe we were interrested in there were only 4 spots available. And they would "go on sale" this morning when the pool opened at 6 am. I did not believe Pan when he said he was going to get there a bit early, he even laughed at himself and thought he could propably joke with the other 3-4 loony toons about how crazy they were to turn up so early. At 5.10 sharp, imagine his disappointment when at least 60, perhaps 100 people were lying there all around, on the floor waiting for the sale to begin. Men, women and children, yes small children because some people turned up MANY hours earlier, to wait in queue, in the middle of the night, WITH THEIR BABIES!

Ok, we love our child, but so desperate for babyswimming we are not! We will just have to train Mr. F ourselves (and you'll see, he'll be a swimming olympic champion)

So we are settled in our Mansion here in Copenhagen city. Queen Margrethe would be envious, well that is if she had lived in the 30 squaremeters in Paris before- on second thought, she has probably never lived in anything smaller that 1000 squaremeters if you dont count "lousy" hotel suites abroad. Our appartment is actually so big that it makes sense to have 2 telephones in it. Our appartment is so big that I can ignore the little man's cries if I want to (but who says I do?). Our appartment is so big that sometimes I just decide to take a walk, inside. Ok, I'll stop here.

Have to say that I have been very pleasently surprised by the Danes. Sometimes just plain surprised by their easy-going-ness. LIke the time we went to register at city hall. It was warm and alot of people waiting. The men working there were wearing shorts (!) but, why not? I noticed many mums with their young children but also many dads. Just before us, a woman with her child has her number coming up. At the same time her child is hungry. No problem. She just wips out her boob, latches the baby on and goes to the man at the desk to get her business done. Where else in the world would you see that? Certainly not in France!

Actually there are babies EVERYWHERE. A friend we met the other day who is working here for a few months actually said it, he said he didnt feel right somehow with ONLY a backpack, the baby was missing. To fit in you actually have to have a pram or a babybjorn (bags where you hang the baby on you). And Mr. F fits right in, with his new special bicycle unit!

In comparison with the sometimes (who am I kidding? all-the-time I shoud say) heavy beaurocratical world of France, basic registration seems pretty easy. Here are a few examples:

° I ordered my new cell number online and got it sent in the mail. If I run out of credit, they automatically charge the phone and let me know with a text.

° When asked if we had recieved any childcare benefits from France, we said no because our income had been too high. They asked if we had any papers about that, but we didnt. So they decided to trust us and actually went out of their way to make sure we got an earlier payment because a mistake had been made in the paperwork. We hadn't even asked for the correction, but how nice are they???

° When making a doctor's appointment they kindly ask you to do so on their website (of a private practice) and if you have any question, send an email and they will quickly reply to you. I was amazed when we took Mr. F to his first appointment and Pan laughed hard when we came out and I said we had forgotten to pay, or well at least sign some papers. Nono, everything was taken care of, directly with the health insurance card.

So my first impressions are good. It has even been sunny. We have met people in the park, drinking beer listening to some chillout music on a sunday afternoon. Its working out and somewhere in the back of my mind I remember the shouting and the stress vaguely, how very far the crazy world of France 24 seems right now..

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